Movie name – Ki and Ka
Release date – 1st April 2016
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One Line Review– Beautiful movie with a strong ‘message’ but only for classes and not masses.

The movie is definitely slow at certain places but overall it puts across very nicely the message of how both the home maker and bread earner are equally important. The emotions of a home maker and bread earner are perfectly captured and represented here.
This movie is a MUST WATCH FOR –
1. New married working couples
2. People about to get married
3. Working women
4. Couples whose husbands don’t help their wives with simple domestic or kitchen work
This is movie is NOT FOR –
1. Salman Khan movie kinda lovers who can’t or don’t want to use their brains

Full marks to one of the most daring directors of Bollywood – Balki. His movies( Cheeni Kum and Paa) were very different and it takes guts to take a tough topic and weave it beautifully (except Shamitabh of course)

The last 10-15 minutes of the movie summarizes the movie very well and if you understand it correctly, it will make your money worth.

All in all – #‎KiAndKa‬ , recommend all couples to go for this ‘hatke’ movie but keep that little patience while watching it because of its slight slowness.

Cheers,
Deepesh Chandran

Dated 2015, the number of divorces in India have increased from early 2000. To cite an example, 11,667 cases of divorce were filed in Mumbai in 2014 up from 5245 cases in 2010.
More than 50% of divorce cases are young couples.
A word that even didn’t exist in our Indian dictionary is now happening with every other friend, relative or acquaintance we hear of!
(BTW this article is mainly addressed to couple settled in metros and cities and not villages)

Now lets take a very simple approach to understand this –

What are the possible reasons why Divorce has increased so much?
i) Women have become much stronger than earlier 
So is that good or bad? Of course..it is good for the women and even society. BUT when a women gets equally educated, well earning and independent…she expects her husband to treat her with dignity…and right fully so. This is where the husband misses out.
Many times, independent wives can’t take any shit from her husband and their egos are very high, just like her male partner. These ego clashes lead to high expectations and silly fights which eventually pile on and on.

ii) Lack of trust
One has to trust each other in an marriage. It of course is subjected to infidelity from anyone, but this is under the assumption that both are clean but one doesn’t trust the other partner in many aspects

iii) Missing the simple secret of successful married life – Communication
This is where most couples go wrong! They expect that the other partner will understand WITHOUT TELLING him/her but please get this straight. It is NEVER going to happen.

iv) Wrong choice of partners
Love is blind…deaf, dumb and brainless. One falls in love with a person, but totally ignores the practical aspects of life. Even when mature people around them warn them of the practical aspects, they are too stubborn and go ahead with their stupid choice of partner.
After the marriage, they realize that they have married an idiot and get reminded of all the things that their near and dear ones had already warned of. Thus unable to sustain the pressure of their stupid life partner, they eventually file for divorce.

v) Lesser time to understand life partners in arranged marriage
Now this is an unfortunate unlike all the other reasons, where only the couple is to be blamed. I really feel bad in this case, as in arranged marriage one actually is not allowed time to know his/her potential life partner.
So after few months or years of marriage, they realize that they married a very wrong person

vi) Marrying at a young age, that too love marriage
Now this are typical cases of college/school lovers, where both of them are of the same age. Due to society pressure and other reasons, they end up marrying in their early 20’s. There is nothing wrong in marrying early, but it is just that both are immature and can’t handle things with maturity.

vii) Lesser Tolerance
This is an extension of the first point, where both husband and wife lack patience. They are incapable of thinking and acting calmly over things

viii) Misconception that ONLY LOVE is enough for getting married
Here is the biggest blunder everyone makes. Love between a boy and girl is NOT the most important thing to get married. Many young couples love each but forget to consider the other important practical parameters needed to sustain in marriage.
Then after few months or couple of years of marriage, they just can’t tolerate each other although love is still there between them

ix) Boy changed after marriage
This is most famous statement given by the wife in various divorce cases. Well…they are actually telling the truth that the boy actually changed.
Typically boy tends to take the wife for granted after marriage and doesn’t treat her the way, he did before the marriage

Reasons like infidelity, extra marital affair, partner being gay, dowry, etc aren’t covered because all these reason are because of any 3rd party or unavoidable or cheating cases. This article for those young couples where the the divorce could have been easily avoided with some sensible approach from the boy and girl.

So how to AVOID Divorce and eradicate the fear of divorce forever?
i) Just remove that option totally from your life
Just remove the word of divorce from the dictionary of your married life. Thus it will never be seen as resort even in the worst conditions.
So the couple would be forced to think of all other options of solving the issue, except divorce

ii) Act early
Don’t wait for things to pile on. Don’t wait for the time that your better half will come to you and make the first move to resolve issues.
Please act early

iii) Try various modes of communication
Very few people on earth have the ability to verbally and aesthetically communicate things. Still talking face to face remains the safest way to communicate, as chances of misinterpretation are less.
Written form of communication is also good, but chances of misunderstanding is very high

iv) Form a Habit together
This is an awesome way for bonding between 2 people. People tend to come even closer because of it.

Having said all I would strongly advocate a divorce in  case of ‘extreme magnitude’ of domestic violence, physco husband/wife, dowry, etc. But please don’t overkill/ overhype/ overestimate the term ‘extreme magnitude’. Else for e.g. just only once the husband happens to hit the wife by chance, the wife can’t treat it as ‘extreme magnitude’ of violence and file for divorce 😉

Please get back me for any doubts by commenting below.

Cheers,
Deepesh Chandran

 

Tamasha – Movie Review

Posted: November 28, 2015 in Movie Reviews

Movie name – Tamasha
Release date – 27th Nov 2015

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One Line Review – Highly Dragging Movie!

The concept of the movie is good, but Imtiaz Ali tried to present it in a unique way which unfortunately happens to be very slow and drags like hell. But a set of cult audience is going to love this movie.

The movie was so slow that people in the theater were checking their whatsapp pings, checking emails, playing angry bird on their mobile during the movie wink emoticon

My heart goes out to Ranbir Kapoor. Such a powerhouse of talent, but no sense of choosing scripts frown emoticon
He chose a Rocket Singh which was a brilliant movie but sadly people didn’t accept it, but movies like Besharam, Roy and Bombay Velet were seriously crap. In fact, Roy remains the worst movie in the history of mankind.

Deepika and Ranbir look awesome and their acting is par excellence. Deepika is here to rule Bollywood.
Lot of acting detailing is given to every shot, which is the genius of Imtiaz Ali, so full marks to the acting department.

All in all, one can easily miss this movie as it is below average to not bad.
A unique attempt made by Imtiaz Ali which only classes will like and masses may not like/understand it.

The Martian – Movie Review

Posted: October 3, 2015 in Movie Reviews
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Movie name – The Martian
Indian release date – 2nd October 2015

One Line ReviewSuperb! Go for it.

This movie excels in all departments – acting, special effects, pace, humor, emotions and even practicality.
The best part of the movie is that there is no unnecessary emotional scenes to bore you, which you might expect in such survivor kind of movies. Usually attempts are made win an Oscar in such movies by showing the acting prowess of the actor and thus creating some dragging and emotional scenes. Luckily this movie doesn’t overdo here

In fact, small doses of humor make the movie even better.

The triumph of human spirit is the essence of the movie and one does feel like a winner at the end.

All in all, don’t miss this one.

The Martian Launch One Sheet

 

Firstly I must admit that I was never an admirer or fan of Parineeti Chopra, but then happened to watch Hasee Toh Phasee and I was suddenly transformed to a life long fan of Parineeti Chopra. I was overwhelmed by acting prowess and cuteness of Parineeti over here. I even felt that she would be nominated for all awards and even win few of them.

Following is my attempt to prove to all non-Parineeti fans and critics as to why she was so good here and why Hasee Toh Phasee is the landmark performance of Parineeti.
Following is also an attempt to convert all those who consider Parineeti just an average actress, without even watching Hasee Toh Phasee, into a Parineeti fan.

What extraordinary did Parineeti do in Hasee to Phasee?
1. Comedy
Bollywood has been unfortunate to have very few actress with splendid comedy timing. Topping my list would be Juhi Chawla and Sridevi. It is the most difficult genre of acting, although it highly under rated by many. Even Hritik Roshan who is considered as one of the complete actors, somehow fails in comedy. 🙂

Parineeti excels in this department in this movie. Her some scenes will leave you in splits . She seems very comfortable with comedy, which is otherwise very difficult.

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2. Kill with Cuteness 
The character played by her is so cute that you just fall in fall in love with her heart-emoji. Also you simply cannot avoid that naughty cute smile
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3. No skin show
There is not even single display of skin show in this movie (which is so made damn mandatory for any movie’s success). It is sad that objectification of women is forced by the various backend team to garness viewership and to the extent it is psychologically forced that a women is beautiful only when she is glamorous

But in this movie it breaks all those stupid enforcement. The actress is totally clothed and yet looks so beautiful and cute that one can’t set ones eye off her
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4. Versatility
She is NOT just doing bubbly-chubbly acting in the entire movie. She has firstly shown the various age groups of her character in the movie.
More importantly notice the pain in her eyes, when she is longing to meet and see her father;
Notice the intensity in her expressions, when she starts falling in love with Siddharth’s character;
Notice the embarrassment in her body language and facial expression, when Siddharth happens to lock her for a long time in the room alone;

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5. Totally within character
The character of her is of an eccentric scientist and she has played the eccentricity to the core. She remains in the character throughout the movie and her body language is also aligned to it.

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6. Proved she is Lambi race ki ghoodi

All modern age legendary actress like the Madhuris, Aishwaryas, Priyankas and even Deepikas had 3 essential things with them – they were a crowd favorite, very good looking and had excellent acting skills. The 4th most important thing is ‘time tested’. Great actress remain on top for more than decade.

Had Parineeti not been a crowd favorite, she wouldn’t have such a huge fan following. To prove it social media wise, she has a good following on Twitter and Facebook. Also since the crowd loves her, she has always bagged top banner productions. These top notch producers are very much aware of her future potential. Also she has reasonable number of Ads which she is endorsing.
Now about good looks, well have a look at the below pics and tell me that you disagree 😉 –

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Regarding the 3rd point of acting, she has already proved what a brilliant actress she is.

Parineeti has already achieved these 3 points and it is a matter of maintaining this consistently over the time now i.e. my fourth point of ‘time tested’. There is nothing stopping her from being in the top list of actress for coming many years now!

FINAL CONCLUSION
So if you haven’t watched this movie, request all to watch it. Remember all the above points that I mentioned and monitor Parineeti in this movie. I bet your perception will change positively towards her and you will be converted into an admirer and fan like me! Also overall Hasee Toh Phasee is one of the best rom-coms I have ever seen

Finally , wishing Parineeti all the super best for a bright and long future in Bollywood and hope she will  continue to enthrall all of us.

Cheers,
Deepesh Chandran

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How to win heart of the girl you love!

Posted: January 17, 2015 in Love

Yes…it is ‘THAT QUESTION’ which has haunted the  non- fairer sex hailing from Mars for ages and many still seek the answer of this internal question.

So lets dive straight into the answer and the prerequisites for it :

Prerequisites
1. You need to actually and truly love this girl –
This won’t work if you have temporary fad or for that matter a strong crush on her. This has to be true love for her, else it might be evident in the later part of your relationship

2. Be ready to invest time, energy and patience –
This could take weeks, months and years as well. Men tend to give up easily and don’t have the guts to continue the hard work for a longer period

3. You need to be your own self –
All of your attempts will fail if you are not being your own self in your entire endeavors. If you try to act like someone whom you aren’t, then you can have undesirable results in the long run.

So now what the hell is the answer?
The answer is perseverance 🙂
No girl is going to say ‘yes’ right away, when you propose. She might shy away, get angry, might get shocked and not even talk with you, serve you tantrums, give you the gyan that ‘hum acche dost hain par uss angle se maine socha nahi‘ ‘woh sab toh theek hai par uss bare mein maine socha nahi‘, etc etc

But as I repeat that if you really love her and she has even 1% of fondness for you, then you always have a chance with your perseverance. So that is the good news and now start with getting your acts together.

How should I go ahead with my perseverance?
1. Show the love –
You won’t lose anything if you are vocal about it. As you anyways love her, tell her how much you love. Please don’t overboard and repeatedly irritate her. Keep your timings correct

2. What does a woman want? –
A woman only wants that the man loves her madly. Love her more than anybody on this earth
So please show her the same as you anyways love her madly

3. Take the Risk-
Never be afraid to take the risk and express your feelings to her. Worst case she is going to say a no. It is much better than she not knowing that you love her or rather how much you love her

4. Show the Shahrukh Khan in you –
Romance doesn’t come easily to anybody. But one has to show it. Not all can speak speak smoothly like a James Bond, but you need to try in your own style. Show the girl that reel Shahrukh Khan is only in movies, but a real life Shahrukh Khan is in front of her.

5. Try being filmy –
Every girl on earth loves it, although they might tell contrary things to you. Which girl wouldn’t like when  you attempt to write a poem for her, when you try and sing her favorite song, when you do all those stupid things done in movies!! Of course…your girl will like it. It is just that men give up  after few attempts.

  • Give the small little gifts that you can manage (Cost is never given the higher  preference, but the right choice of gift is)
  • Show the care for her in the little things in her life
  • Compliment her genuinely, whenever she looks good
  • Do things that she likes and not things that you feel and like. e..g- You might like red roses and would be gifting her the same, but she always liked white roses!

BUT having said everything, don’t forget the biggest prerequisites i.e. of not having fake love with her. If it is in the attempt to use the girl, then entire above article will become null and void for you.

So go ahead …fall in love and make her loved one also fall in love with you! For doubts and detailed answers, please comment in the below comment box 😉

Cheers,
Deepesh Chandran

Now let the girl impress you

Posted: January 3, 2015 in Beautiful Life, Love

This article is for all guys aged between 18-28. The reason being that the most guys aged 29 and above are already married.

Now the meaning of love changes as our age changes. Every time the meaning of love seems correct, depending on  your corresponding age.
Lets come to one good advice to be given to  all young turks/singleton guys/ i-wanna-have-gf wannabes.

We all have watched many Hollywood movies, where the guy tells the girl in the mushiest, heart touching dialogs like ‘Hence forth the only aim of my life would be to bring a smile on your face’ , ‘ Every day, every moment of mine belongs to you’ , ‘I would do this blah blah ,blue blue, blee blee for you’ and etc
Now ask yourselves what should be the aim of the girl here? Is her job is to only keep accepting and enjoying the happiness being bestowed by guy? Why can’t the girl’s aim be to keep you happy for every single moment for the entire life?

@single guys-  you might have spend most of your life running behind a girl, doing various things for her, in many ways being used by her and trying to impress a girl. It is really not a sensible  thing to do. The girl who is very much out of your reach, who has her qualms of her ideal partner, who will always consider you ‘just a friend’, who is always confused about her ideal guy, etc  ..just doesn’t deserve your sweet efforts.

SO WHAT DO YOU DO THEN?
1) Love your own space. Love your self. Improve your own self. Enjoy your space. And the best news is that there are millions of ways to do that.
2) Make yourself so good, that eventually someone will come to your life who will love and respect you for the fantastic person that you actually are. NOW LET THE GIRL IMPRESS YOU.
3) One should always like and love some girl, BUT put in your time, energy and efforts on her only if she deserves so and more importantly if she reciprocates so

Enough of Gyan and looking for a practical Plan of Action? So here is it-
PRACTICAL PLAN OF ACTION
1) IF You love a girl, you should definitely express your feelings to her. She would have definitely spurn your overtures (Else you wouldn’t be reading this article :P). If you really love her, be around her as friend but keep telling her that he love her. BUT  DON’T DARE go on to all stupid things to impress. She has to to like you for your true nature and not for what you are forcefully doing, only to impress her.
If the girl is really sensible, she will quietly observe you and evaluate you for a long period of time. If things have to happen, it will happen.
2) IF You like a girl, but she is a filmy girl  and dreamy Walt Disney story believer  and has huge pile of expectations…then then then….RUN AWAY
3) IF You like a girl who is just 22 years and you are 29 years..then then then…RUN AWAY.
4) IF You like a girl,with whom you are most comfortable,who is genuinely impressed with your original traits & nature, with whom silence is comfortable …then then then …MARRY HER
5) IF you like a girl, is from higher class of society than you, much more good looking than you are, is like totally hi-fi  …then then then…no need to run away,but you shouldn’t ideally marry her. The reason being that she happens to a high maintenance girl. Can she live in the current society where you are staying? Can she adjust from her high standards to your middle class standards? Can you even live up to her high expectations? Most often the answer would be a NO.
You would be under tremendous pressure for your entire life in only matching up to her expectations and standards. In short, you would be in a forced mode to always impress her.

NEED SOME TESTIMONIALS-
Need testimonials as to what happens when you invest time on improving yourself and not unnecessarily  waste your time on impressing girls?
Ask all the 28 year plus men whom you know or their friends, who were royally rejected by many girls in their younger days. But they worked hard in life, got great jobs and are now financially and mentally stable. Now they have even more beautiful and sensible wives than the girls who rejected them earlier.

So stop to impress the girl – improve yourself- where eventually someone impresses you 🙂

Cheers,
Deepesh Chandran