Now let the girl impress you

This article is for all guys aged between 18-28. The reason being that the most guys aged 29 and above are already married.

Now the meaning of love changes as our age changes. Every time the meaning of love seems correct, depending on  your corresponding age.
Lets come to one good advice to be given to  all young turks/singleton guys/ i-wanna-have-gf wannabes.

We all have watched many Hollywood movies, where the guy tells the girl in the mushiest, heart touching dialogs like ‘Hence forth the only aim of my life would be to bring a smile on your face’ , ‘ Every day, every moment of mine belongs to you’ , ‘I would do this blah blah ,blue blue, blee blee for you’ and etc
Now ask yourselves what should be the aim of the girl here? Is her job is to only keep accepting and enjoying the happiness being bestowed by guy? Why can’t the girl’s aim be to keep you happy for every single moment for the entire life?

@single guys-  you might have spend most of your life running behind a girl, doing various things for her, in many ways being used by her and trying to impress a girl. It is really not a sensible  thing to do. The girl who is very much out of your reach, who has her qualms of her ideal partner, who will always consider you ‘just a friend’, who is always confused about her ideal guy, etc  ..just doesn’t deserve your sweet efforts.

SO WHAT DO YOU DO THEN?
1) Love your own space. Love your self. Improve your own self. Enjoy your space. And the best news is that there are millions of ways to do that.
2) Make yourself so good, that eventually someone will come to your life who will love and respect you for the fantastic person that you actually are. NOW LET THE GIRL IMPRESS YOU.
3) One should always like and love some girl, BUT put in your time, energy and efforts on her only if she deserves so and more importantly if she reciprocates so

Enough of Gyan and looking for a practical Plan of Action? So here is it-
PRACTICAL PLAN OF ACTION–
1) IF You love a girl, you should definitely express your feelings to her. She would have definitely spurn your overtures (Else you wouldn’t be reading this article :P). If you really love her, be around her as friend but keep telling her that he love her. BUT  DON’T DARE go on to all stupid things to impress. She has to to like you for your true nature and not for what you are forcefully doing, only to impress her.
If the girl is really sensible, she will quietly observe you and evaluate you for a long period of time. If things have to happen, it will happen.
2) IF You like a girl, but she is a filmy girl  and dreamy Walt Disney story believer  and has huge pile of expectations…then then then….RUN AWAY
3) IF You like a girl who is just 22 years and you are 29 years..then then then…RUN AWAY.
4) IF You like a girl,with whom you are most comfortable,who is genuinely impressed with your original traits & nature, with whom silence is comfortable …then then then …MARRY HER
5) IF you like a girl, is from higher class of society than you, much more good looking than you are, is like totally hi-fi  …then then then…no need to run away,but you shouldn’t ideally marry her. The reason being that she happens to a high maintenance girl. Can she live in the current society where you are staying? Can she adjust from her high standards to your middle class standards? Can you even live up to her high expectations? Most often the answer would be a NO.
You would be under tremendous pressure for your entire life in only matching up to her expectations and standards. In short, you would be in a forced mode to always impress her.

NEED SOME TESTIMONIALS-
Need testimonials as to what happens when you invest time on improving yourself and not unnecessarily  waste your time on impressing girls?
Ask all the 28 year plus men whom you know or their friends, who were royally rejected by many girls in their younger days. But they worked hard in life, got great jobs and are now financially and mentally stable. Now they have even more beautiful and sensible wives than the girls who rejected them earlier.

So stop to impress the girl – improve yourself- where eventually someone impresses you 🙂

Cheers,
Deepesh Chandran

How I saw the year – 2014

Sports –

1. India emerges as the hub of ‘Blah Blah Premier League’ be it cricket, football, badminton, kabaddi, etc
2. Superstars rise in other sports apart from cricket – Sania Mirza reaches her top form this year, Sania Nehwal ends the year with No- 4 world ranking, Srikanth defeats five-time world champion Lin from  China in their own background in badminton to win men’s singles events of China Open Super Series Premier, Indian wresting continues its good form and much more…
3. My favorite cricketer- Dhoni suddenly retires from Tests, although he will remain with us for One Days and T20s

Politics –

1. Arvind Kejriwal rises when he becomes the CM but seals the fate for AAP and himself with the disastrous decision to quit from the CM post
2.  2014 belonged to Modi! Period.
I hope that wave becomes stronger and helps India to achieve great heights

Facebook/ Social Media –

1. Selfie rage takes on everyone
2. Ice Bucket Challenge is taken by everyone having no clue – why it was started, what was the end purpose of it, what is ALS, even the full form of ALS… 😦

Bollywood –

1. SRK named as the world’s second richest celebrity. Way to go for this self made man!
2. Senseless movies become blockbusters…viz Kick, Jai Ho, Happy New Year, Bang Bang….
3. Actress take helm of the movie and make it a hit with their brilliant performance – Parineeti in Hassee toh phasee, Kangana in Queen, Tabu in Haider, Priyanka in Mary Kom….

India –

1. India lands on Mars in typical India style i.e. sabse kum kharche mein 😛
2. India finally gets a Nobel Peace prize that too for a social worker, whom 99% of the Indians didn’t even know. Shame on us or what! Respect to Kailash Satyarthi
3. @Rahul Gandhi – You Rock! Please continue to do whatever you doing till now
4. Govt legitimatizes Live-in relationship. Gen-X rejoices
5. Thanks to Modi – keeping the society clean is now considered cool and sorts of social pressure!